Society.. What is it?

Unwritten rules, mindless followers, curbing free expression, suppressing emotions, being 'civil', keeping yourself in check.. basic normal signs of a "society"..

but what is this society? It seems to be everywhere.. It 'lives' through people, having a very strong grip over all those who come under it.. Its like a thunder cloud, with its own droplets nd storms..

All minds are expected to conform to the unsaid rules of the society.. It decides whois 'proper and improper', who and wat is 'good and bad', etc etc etc..

Society is a boon for so many ppl who fear themselves..

Most ppl are scared of being alone.. they fear being left to themselves.. they fear madness as they will need to think for themselves.. 

but wat they truly fear, is "FREEDOM"..

FREEDOM from the crowd..

FREEDOM from control..

FREEDOM of thought..

FREEDOM from rules..

this freedom comes with responsibility of being sincere to yourself.. the need to NOT think about wat others think about you.. the need to BE..

society closes room for change.. like rituals.. it abhorrs variety and rapid change.. and anything tat lives such is supposed to be crappy.. 

it is also wrong of us to say tat changin society is unstable and will crash..

true.. but isnt tat also a change?? how is it tat we are able to accept a profitable change but not one where we've to give up what we've got??

isnt tat also unfair? its is purely selfish.. this is the responsibility that comes with freedom..

society is anything tat believes in or finds happiness is gains.. gains of money, or ppl, or faith, or anything at all..

freedom, is not wanting.. just living.. exist.. find happiness with yourself.. all tat society has to offer are literally nothing..

U be sincere.. help wit all your heart.. love wit all your soul.. live with complete joy..

Understanding

A person is very "understanding".. they "know" what to say when nd what to do when nd where.. some ppl are just so "awake to the situation"..

we drop terms so easily, without thinking or having deep knowledge about the weightage they carry.. true, words dont mean a thing.. but when being used, it is important to put them where they belong..

Human beings have a big big problem.. and that is the very deep rooted belief that they DO have problems.. People who feel very traumatized by emotions, hurt by other "insensitive" people, humiliated by words spoken or actions performed against them, are definitely not in a position to be blamed.. they are but the victims of themselves and of the rest of the society..

A person is liked by many people when he/she is "polite", "caring", "understanding", "straighforward", "honest", etc etc..

but a person with all such characterisctics can still become the villain if he is honest at the "wrong time" or truthful when he "should know better"..

so what is the point, or where do all the good qualities disappear in such situations?? why is it tat a person who sticks to these morals and values is criticised for living upto the very qualities tat are praised and spoken about??

the answer does not lie in questioning the traits, or the person.. the answer lies within the delicately carved framework that humans called "society".. many minds, together form certain rules and divisions which, everybody is expected to fall into.. these become social rules and moral ethical codes that ppl "should" follow for a healthy living.. 

any person who speaks their mind out is scorned by the majority who strongly believe in these rules as it means lesser resposibility on the individual..

so who is ultimately the person who "understands"??

THAT would be the one individual who realises how futile the social framework is, and just does what they as an individual believe is right.. As these traits come from the true self of the individual, therefore there's no unrealistin notion in wat they do..

this absolute reality is wat comes out nd therefore, anythin they do comes without bein held back.. they do what they believe they should and not wat society expects out of them..

here, it must be said that such a true person can never be a real "boon" to society as very soon, the same society that hails him would be the first to convict him of being sincere.. it will tarnish nd toture him for bein tru to his self nad scorn him..

the true realised being, knows how futile society really is, nd is therefore unaffected and continues being the epitome of virtue..

such a person is a real person who "understands", is "caring nd compassionate", who is truly "affectionate" and is completely at peace with himself..

Alone?? GREAT!!

Ppl have got to get many things straightened out..

Acc to me, the most important thing would be the "emotional" concept of LONELINESS or being ALONE..

for starts, the two are completely different from each other..

Loneliness is a state of emotional imbalance where the mind searches unsuccessfully for companionship in others. Loneliness is extremely unhealthy and HAS to be rooted out. Many ppl today suffer from this, which is why we have so many ego clashes, rivalry, jealousy, etc etc. 

Being ALONE, on the other hand, is spendin time with yourself.. understanding yourself and observing yourself.. it is a very healthy trend and helps u keep a check on yourself.. it gives u more strength and helps u challenge your fears and problems.. Morre time we spend with ourselves, the better we become..

There is a lot of confusion between these two terms.. it has been messed up time and again.. most people believe that the only real way to live is being surrounded by loving, caring ppl, friends, ppl u can fall back on, etc etc etc..

Agreed.. such a life is very good.. but the more u depend on others, the more mentally strained u become.. When you begin to get affected by things like ppl callin you names, teasing, ragging, etc, it shows how weak u are mentally.. U appear as a person who does not trust himself/herself and cannot fallback on yourself for support..

The greatest leaders are ppl who believed in themselves.. u do need ppl around u to support u, true.. but not havin such ppl doesnt mean u are not worth it..

Ppl have this "need" to be wanted and appreciated.. but once u become strong mentally, even if the whole world hates you, u will still stand and fight..

automatically, others who sense the strength within you will come towards you.. they will look up to you to overcome their own fears.. U will liberate them..

Spend time alone.. Why confuse with loneliness.. loneliness comes from desire.. desire is probably the worst of all psychological issues we have to deal with.. spend time alone..

Switch off your cell phones for abt half an hour everyday..

take a walk without your ipod..

breathe fresh air and feel the goodness..

You will find your inner silence..

Find that and NOTHING can shake u or break you..

U Stand by ourself.. its YOUR life.

:)